Answer by Karen Tiede:
Maybe they simply see themselves as blunt, or honest, or straightforward.
Someone–you?–challenged one of my answers recently. "Do you really think that's an appropriate thing to say?"
"Yes, I do," I replied, and left it at that.
I am not one to coddle. I am not "mean," at least in my own mind, and at the same time, I am not one to coddle, to swaddle, to wrap up in cotton.
Dump the deadbeat, get rid of the GF whose causing problems, quit drinking, get a better job. Why beat around the bush?
One Quoran's "kind" is another Quoran's "obfuscation."